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Silvia Hartmann is one of the EFT practitioners I respect very much. The books she writes are thorough, written with dedication and a great deal of knowledge. I came across her article about EFT and money block and I definitely think this process is worth doing several times. I haven’t yet met a person without money issues; even the rich ones have them. So read on and tap along!

As I have no experience with clients complaining of having too much money and suffering from sleepless nights because they simply don’t know how to spend it all, I think we’ll just go right ahead and look at some strategies on how to overcome money problems with EFT.

As “money” is such a deeply convoluted subject with aspects arising all over the place, a nice idea is to go back to basics. Especially if there are serious money problems, it can be most helpful to start by treating money like you would treat a spider phobia.

Find (or borrow) a banknote of a reasonably large denomination and simply place it in front of you on a desk or table. What springs to mind? What emotions do you feel when you look at it? When I’ve tested this procedure with people, it was most interesting to note what a variety of negative responses occurred. From, “I don’t believe this is mine”, via “I don’t deserve to have this”, to “There’s no point getting attatched to it, someone will just come and take it away anyhow” - a whole range of depressing, unhappy, and generally truly negative responses were present when you simply confronted an every day adult with a bank note.

This became even more pronounced when I picked up the note, held it out to the person and said loudly, “Here you go, (name), this is for you.” Not a single one of my “success coaching” clients could take the money without feeling seriously bad for a whole range of complicated reasons!

The format was just to keep tapping and testing each time by bringing out the bank note again until there was no negative response left and the person took the note happily, readily, and even with a smile in some cases.

If you are intending to do some “money work” by yourself or with friends, use the following as “triggers” (like the spider would be to the spider phobic) to find the aspects of the problem:

…single bank notes of various denominations…a pile of banknotes (boy that is a set of interesting aspects!)…a single large coin (this brings out childhood memories)…a pile of coins (this brings out childhood memories relating to savings)

Then, we can go on to clear other money related aspects by using some of the following in the same, straightforward way (which is always: trigger, test, tap, trigger, test):

…bank statements (serial spending and saving habits :-)…payslips/wage packets (apart from career issues, this brings out family/father issues from childhood)…credit cards (imagine me laughing here - talk about negative emotions coming to the fore!)…credit card statements (which have different aspects to the actual plastic card)…building society books, share certificates, or any other paper representation of money that features large in the individual person’s life…bills and invoices (and especially the red variety

Financial limits are wonderfully explored by using a friend and both their chequebook and yours. Write each other cheques for ever increasing sums of money and hand them to each other. This can bring out not only the pain of accepting large sums of money, but conversely also the pain of letting go! “Money constipation” is just as damaging to a healthy financial system as is “money diarrhea” (where you don’t earn but keep on spending regardless), “money anorexia” (where you neither earn nor spend) or “money bulimia” (where you earn but spend immediately so there’s no noticeable gain at the end of the day).

Lastly (and this is a personal favourite of mine) we have what I call “potential money” such as lottery tickets, gambling slips and scratch cards. Entwined in these you will find issues around luck, deservability, and, most interesting of all, often a belief that “this is the ONLY HOPE I could possibly have to ever become really rich”.*

*A note: Tapping away negative feelings on lottery tickets does not turn someone into a compulsive gambler. On the contrary. It can actually help with compulsive gambling to dis-engage emotion from the trigger the lottery tickets (as well as game shows, horse races and so on) represent.

You might think as you read this, “That’s a lot of tapping!”, but don’t fret. It only seems that way because I have made a list of relevant “money triggers” that in reality covered a whole lot of real people and all their combined problems.

Generally, only some of the triggers reveal the driving forces to a person’s overall money problems, and when they have been dealt with, it’s not necessary to do all the other ones. I have mentioned them all so that you could work your way through them over a period of, say, a week. I promise you, it would truly change your relationship with “money” for the better.

Silvia Hartmann-Kent

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 I have not been listening to my favorite Hay House Radio for sometime, but then I listened to 2 last Michael Neill’s shows and during both of them had an aha effect. They are called “The Three Obstacles to Wealth and How to Think Like a Creator I recommend them highly.

Then today I came across this email in my Inbox; I am posting it as it came. Yeah, you figured it already, I am a fan.

  CLEAN PAIN, DIRTY PAIN

“Laughter is the highest form of prayer.”

-Reinhold Niebuhr

In her wonderful new book “Steering by Starlight”, Martha Beck tells the story of how her Down syndrome son Adam proudly brought his new watch to school, only to see it broken by a friend who accidentally dropped it on the floor.  Their teacher felt so bad on Adam’s behalf that she continued to scold Adam’s
friend for the rest of the day and on into the next.

As she tells the story in her book…

“…while the class was working quietly on a project, Adam approached (the teacher’s) desk.

‘Ms. Morrison,’ he observed politely, ‘it was my watch.’

‘I know, honey,’ Ms. Morrison groaned, feeling just awful.  ’I shouldn’t have let you lend it to Jared.’

‘No,’ said Adam, frowning with frustration. ‘It was *my* watch.’

‘And it was awful that he broke it.  I’m so sorry.’

Adam began to laugh.  Then, for several seconds, he thought very hard, the way he does when he absolutely has to make himself understood.

‘Ms. Morrison,’ he said very slowly, ‘it… was… *my*…watch.  Not… yours.’

He looked at her intently to see if she’d get it.  And then, for Ms. Morrison, the light dawned.

‘Oh,’ she said.  ’You mean I should let it go?’

Adam burst out laughing again, heaved a huge sigh of relief, and went happily back to his seat.”

What I love about this story is that it so clearly demonstrates the difference between what Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) pioneer Steven Hayes calls “clean pain” and “dirty pain”.

“Clean pain” is inherent in life itself - the things we love will be broken or lost, the people we love will die, and our own bodies will grow old (if we’re lucky) and die.  Yet along with “clean pain” comes the ability to bear it - the strength inside to bear whatever life throws at us and come out the other side stronger than before.

“Dirty pain” is much more difficult, because it is self-generated and self-maintained.  It is the suffering we create for ourselves in the privacy of our own mind, spinning stories about what it all means and why our pain is “different”.

It’s the pain that comes from thinking that our lives ended with the life of the man or woman we love, or the hundreds of daily assaults we put ourselves through in our thoughts when our body only had to experience one assault, one time.

“Dirty pain” is so painful in part because we are not biologically designed to combat it.  All the adrenaline in the world won’t help you fight an imaginary dragon, and so instead the slings and arrows of our outrageous fortune find new targets in the people and world around us.

But the good news (you did realize there was going to be good news, didn’t you? is that simply recognizing the difference between the essential pain of being human and the self-generated suffering of your thoughts is the beginning of the end of that suffering.

No matter how scary a movie you may be watching, the second you remember that you’re in a movie theatre being “entertained” by flickering images on a screen, the bulk of that fear will drain away.  And the moment you begin to notice that you’re not afraid of what you think you’re afraid of - you’re afraid of what you think - your own fear of life will begin to fade and be replaced by the essential bliss of existence.

What I have learned since I first began to study for myself the nature of what it is to be a human being over twenty years ago is that the old adage is true:

Pain is inevitable;
Joy is available;
Suffering is optional -
But you’ll have to provide it for yourself.

With love,
Michael

http://www.geniuscatalyst.com

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 I  am very fond of Abraham’s work; here is an excerpt from Esther’s and Jerry’s workshop:

Always, when you know what you don’t want, that’s when the rocket of desire is born of what you do want. That is the fruit of your experience. Now pluck it and savor it and enjoy it.

 Visualize it, and find the feeling place of it. And live happily ever after, once you get the hang of this.

Excerpted from a workshop in Spokane, WA on Wednesday, July 7th, 1999

All Is Well

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I haven’t read it yet, it is still in the mail, but since the 12Keys2Bliss course was inspired by it, it certainly is worth reading.The book is called Everyday Bliss For Busy Women. The author, Maryam Webster a teacher and a mentor of mine, I am proud to say, is also the creator and the director of the Energy Coach Institute from which I acquired my Energy Coaching Certification.

I went through the program twice as a refresher and was on each and every call as I loved it so much. When Maryam is teaching something is happening; I actually believe that she is channeling the material in a way.

After each of her classes I feel my heart is more open and my cells are the cells of a better person. So if you haven’t yet, but are interested in Energy Psychology, I strongly recommend looking up the Certified Energy Coaching training running only once a year.

This is a place where you are coupled in pairs; you get buddies to work with. It is one of my favorite perks because most of the time you keep working and sharing your life with them for a long, long time.

Now back to the book:

Book Description
Places to go. People to see. For the busy woman with a thousand things in the air at once, where is the time to luxuriate in an earth-toned room in the thrall of haunting flute music and aroma therapy candles? Between the board meeting and soccer practice?

Nonsense! If today’s busy woman wants be awash in bliss, she needs to make it happen–fast! This book, written by a noted expert in energy psychology, positive psychology, and neurolinguistic programming (NLP), offers busy women simple, in-the-moment energy balancing tips that can boost energy and foster wellness is just minutes–or even seconds!–each day.

After a brief orientation to the techniques used in Everyday Bliss for Busy Women, the reader will learn simple, powerful techniques to ease stress and tension, relieve aches and pains, and reconnect the mind and spirit. Latter chapters address specific issues in a woman’s day, from getting up in the morning to getting to work to bedtime routines for bliss and relaxation.

From the Publisher
Everyday Bliss offers busy women an amazing array of quick and easy tips, grounded in energy psychology and positive psychology, to simply and gracefully eliminate nagging worries and aching pains and bring forth abundant energy for living a life of bliss.

Maryam Webster was a transpersonal psychotherapist and practitioner of energy psychology for twenty years before retraining as a personal performance coach. She merged the powerful new energy psychology techniques with coaching methods to create the powerful new helping profession of Energy Coaching. Director of The Energy Coach Institute, and creator of its Certified Energy Coach Program, Webster works with women in leadership to regain their bliss and excel both at work and home through the Everyday Bliss process.

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