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Emotional Freedom Techniques (or EFT) is a revolutionary new healing aid being used worldwide by those in the healing professions and because of its simplistic and complementary nature has become an excellent addition to the coaching tool box.

EFT is a psychological form of acupuncture, but without the needles. Instead, you stimulate well established energy meridian points on your body by tapping on them with your fingertips whilst repeating specific statements. The process is easy to memorize and is portable so you can do it anywhere.

EFT was discovered by Gary Craig in the 1980’s and is an amazing process that allows you to discover the underlying issues that have been holding you back and has been known to provide relief from:

Life-long Fears and Phobias, Serious Physical Ailments, Illness and Injuries, Body Image Issues, Cravings and Addictions, Money and Wealth Issues, Relationship Issues, Career and Business Issues.

The underlying principle of EFT is, “The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system.” And because our physical pains and diseases are so obviously connected with our emotions the following statement has also proven to be true…

“Our unresolved negative emotions are major contributors to most physical pains and diseases.”

This common sense approach to EFT draws its power from;
1) Time-honored Eastern discoveries that have been around for over 5,000 years and
2) Albert Einstein, who told us back in the 1920’s that everything (including our body), is composed of energy.

The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system, and when combined with the universal law of attraction is why people struggle towards that which they truly want. For example:

If you have a negative thought, feeling or belief vibrating at a sub-conscious level in your body then you will actually be attracting this vibration in your external world. The correct use of EFT will allow you to clear this energetic vibration (eg the negative thought, feeling or belief) and then replace it with a more positive and powerful vibration, so that you begin to attract the reality (by performing the behaviors) that are in alignment with this new vibration.

How does EFT work? EFT works by massaging the meridians (by tapping on them with your finger tips) to free up any trapped energy associated with the negative past or projected future trauma or event and is simple to perform,

Step one: Identify an issue that you would like to work on. For the sake of this article I will use the issue of “I feel like a failure” But just remember EFT has been known to work on almost anything, so if you have any issue feel free to use that instead.

Step two: Identify on a scale of 0-10 how badly you feel about this issue. Ten being the worst you could possibly feel. If you can’t feel it right now then close your eyes and imagine yourself in the stressful situation or issue in your mind.

Step Three: Create the set up statement “Even though I feel like a failure I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway”. The purpose of the set up statement is to bring the issue to your conscious awareness and to say that even though I have this issue I still love myself anyway. Eg I am not my issue.

Step Four: Repeat the set up statement 3 times whilst tapping repeatedly on the Karate Chop (KC) point. The karate chop point is on the side of the small finger side of either hand. Form a karate chop action with your hand and then hit something with it (eg a table). The point that hit the table is the karate chop point

Step Five: Perform 1-2 rounds of the negative statement (eg “I feel like a failure”) whilst tapping on each of the meridian points, starting from the Eye Brow point and going down the body and then finishing on the top of your head and when finished take a deep breath out.

Step Six: Re-assess on a scale of 0-10 how badly you feel about the original issue. Ideally you will have reduced your number as the emotional charge will have either dissipated, disappeared or you will have triggered a secondary issue. If you still have some emotional charge around the original issue or you have unearthed another secondary issue (which normally presents itself in the form of another emotion, a belief, a memory of a past event or even a physical symptom) then repeat the above six steps until you feel completely clear of any mental, emotional or physical discomfort.

Step Seven: Repeat the 6 step EFT process just mentioned on anything else that may be causing you some unease.

And here are a few Tapping tips, just in case you still need them:

- It does not matter which hand you use when tapping. You can use your right, left or both hands if you want to.
- You can tap on either side of the body if you want as the meridian points are symmetrical on each side of the body.
- When tapping on each meridian point aim for 7-10 taps or just tap for as long as it takes you to say the statement.

Case Study, The Fear of Public Speaking. The following is an excerpt from a client of mine Terry (not his real name) prior to spending 30 minutes with me to rid himself of his (very common) fear of Public Speaking.

“I am 47 years old. I grew up as a confident and sociable person, who was a top debater and comfortable public speaker. Approximately 23 years ago I had my first panic attack, whilst in the middle of presenting in a work environment. It was terrifying and utterly humiliating and I have since had many more attacks, which have shaped and reduced my quality of life such that I avoid any situation where it could happen. The terror is not knowing when it will happen. I have tried hypnotherapy, breathing exercises, physical exercise & dieting, but lately just seem to drown it out with alcohol and I am getting desperate. I have just been put in charge of a role that requires leadership and speaking at meetings and seminars, which includes being transferred to Perth on the 1st of next month. My first presentation is scheduled for next week and I would willingly swim in a swamp full of crocodiles rather than face it as I have failed so many times before and now it is like a self fulfilling prophecy. I need help and I need it quickly!”

The session involved performing EFT on the following four statements:

“Even though I have this fear of public speaking”
“Even though I am terrified of my panic attacks and not knowing when they will happen next”
“Even though I am wearing smelly shoes and I fear being humiliated” and finally
“Even though I am afraid of what people will think of me.”

When we finally removed enough emotional charge we were able to get down to the underlying issue, which was:

Just before Terry’s first panic attack 23 years ago, he had been attending a conference and had consumed far too many drinks the night before his presentation. When he woke up he had put his shoes on and they were soaking wet and smelly (from his drunken activities the night before). Without time to buy new shoes he went into his presentation feeling extremely self conscious and was fearing what others might think of him. And consequently this resulted in bringing on his first ever panic attack, which he associated with public speaking. Therefore every time he had to speak in public after that initial traumatic event he triggered the underlying emotions of fear, panic, terror and humiliation.

I am very happy to say that after only one session Terry is back to being a very confident public speaker.

Well there it is. I hope you now have a better understanding of EFT. Good luck with your tapping.

 

The author Andrew McCombe (BPhEd) is a Personal Trainer, Life Coach and Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Practitioner, Author and Speaker. For more information download the Free 10 EASY Steps to Your Perfect Body E-Book at http://www.activateyourweightloss.com.au

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This morning a client called me all upset, crying and out of breath in panic and desperation.

She wanted to be ‘as good as Ms X, and have a website as beautiful and functional with products that are as great.’

She wanted some coaching, but her mind said, “I can’t do it! I don’t have the knowledge or expertise, my website can’t compare, I’m not as good as Ms X is, I don’t have the money, I’m afraid I’ll pay and pay and not get anywhere….”

I’m going to write here as if I were talking right to her, because this is so common that I bet you go through it sometimes, too. Ready? Here goes:

Whoa! Slow down here! The first problem is that you got so hung up in comparing and thinking you weren’t ‘as good as’ that you forgot! You forgot to notice that it’s just energy! You’re using it to compare yourself to someone you admire, and ending up feeling bad about yourself. No blame, you just forgot! So, let’s turn that around now.

When you compare, you end up collapsing in upon yourself and focusing only on your default negative beliefs about yourself. Then they spiral you down deeper and deeper, until it seems like nothing will ever work again.

You are forgetting two more essential components: 1. As you compare yourself to her, are you asking what you’d prefer in your own life or business instead of what you’re doing now, and then acknowledging that you can actually do that?

No! You are continuing to collapse into despair and self-hatred and believing that you ‘can’t do it’!

And 2., are you asking yourself what your next steps would be in getting to that preference?

No! You can’t even begin to ask because you’re so deeply centered in thinking there’s something wrong with you!

LET’S TURN IT AROUND
So come on out for a second and describe the feeling(s) you’re having to me. It can be a hollow feeling in your chest or belly, a sharp pain in your heart, a constriction in your throat, sweaty palms, a heat-flush over the whole front of the body….

There are so many bodily-felt sensations I could fill a book with them alone. It’s up to you to notice what you’re feeling–literally–in your body, and describe it to yourself in graphic terms, the more detailed the better.

Your feelings aren’t ‘bad!’ You need to stop looking at them as if they are your enemies. Instead of saying ‘I want to eliminate my anger,’ ask, ‘what is this anger–this intense energy running through me–telling me that I need to look at and change inside of myself?’

Your feelings are your sensory radar that let you know that there is energy to be reclaimed in your system. That’s all they are–messages. Not always symptoms of illness, not ‘bad,’ not ‘to be gotten rid of,’ not unresolvable.

COMPARISON
Comparison is a confidence-killer habit–and it’s something we all do on a regular basis! It’s OK to do if you can maintain an unattached viewpoint. But most of us were never taught how to do that, so we fall into self-recrimination, anger and despair instead of curiousoity and creativity.

Here’s how to handle it: first, go ahead and notice everything about that person (or thing, activity or whatever it is) that you like, admire and would like to copy, emulate or do in your own way.

Second, now look for the things about it or them that you do NOT like, and would do differently if it were up to you to decide (which, of course, it is!).

FEELINGS
Third, now notice what feelings are stirring within yourself. Anger? Jealousy? Sadness? Grief or loneliness? Desperation, fear, confusion, or helplessness?

Handle your feelings, transform the energy and get a move on!

How do you do that?

Name your feelings. Heart-stab, belly-ache, hollow chest, twinge under the scapula….like that.

If you cannot name your feelings, that’s OK. Just focus on the actual sensations in your body, like I described in paragraph four above.

If you feel completely numb and cannot recognize any bodily-felt sensations, acknowledge that, too.

Let’s play with this a little. Let’s say you were looking at someone’s beautiful website. You admire the colors, the way the site is put together and designed to be simple and navigable. The elements on each page are just right; the products are cohesive and well-priced, and the copy is written in an attractive way you really like.

You also notice the person has a great system that is simple yet deep, and really does do what it says it does: helps people feel good and understand themselves and get along better in life.

Now ask yourself this: if I were as talented, gifted and skilled as that person, what would I be doing?

Ahhhh–did your belief system just kick you in the butt and said ‘you’re not’? Did it say, ‘yeah right!’ Or, ‘that’ll be the day!’

Fill in the blanks below 5 phrases you thought or heard:

___________________________
___________________________
___________________________
___________________________
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Write down what your body is feeling: (sharp pain in my heart, hollow feeling in my belly, tight throat, pain in my mid-back….)

___________________________
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Rate the pain or feeling: if zero was none, and ten the most painful or intense, what would you rate the feelings you have?

sharp pain in my heart ___ 9 ____
hollow feeling in my belly ___ 10 ____
tight throat _______ 5 _______
pain in my mid-back ____ 9 _____

Now do yours: _______________
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TRANSFORM THE ENERGY
Now tap on it! Start with the physical.

As you tap on your karate chop point, say this:

Even though:
I have this sharp pain in my heart
it feels like someone’s stabbing me
I want to lie down and give up, and
I feel so helpless and powerless…
I still want to love and accept myself.

Now I want you to exaggerate the negative so you can have a little fun at this. Instead of only saying you feel powerless, really stretch it (and see if you can get to a place where you can laugh):

Even though:
I feel so powerless
I feel helpless like a newborn kitten
I feel like a flat puddle
like a slimeball just out of the tubes
like a limp rag or wet seaweed….
I really do love myself.

And now really rebel and say this:

Even though:
I don’t love and accept myself–
I don’t even want to!
You can’t make me!
I won’t do it!
You never loved or accepted me when I was little
Why should I?
If I do I’ll lose out
I’ll never ever be accepted
it’s impossible
I won’t do it!
I’m gonna be a rebel until I die!
I don’t believe any of this works!
Fooey on you!
But I still love and respect myself profoundly, every little part of me.

Now tap on each point on the face and torso, using the same phrases you used above to express yourself. Tap and then re-rate your feelings.

OPPOSITES
Why do you say those (sometimes scary-sounding)  opposites?

Because some hidden, irrational part of you actually is thinking those things! It needs to be expressed – ex = outside of, -press = push. So you need to push those thoughts and energies outside of yourself so you can see and heal them. If there is no part of you thinking those things, you won’t think of them to say!

When you express and acknowledge them without judgement, they can give a big sigh and allow themselves to be reformed into clean, creative energy. Sometimes you’ll feel a big sigh or a yawn or a tingle in your back or leg–that’s the energy resettling itself properly.

Those ‘negative’ thoughts are not even always your own thoughts. They can be thoughts handed down in your family, thoughts that someone else pushed on you–maybe you picked them up from a teacher, peer or parent, or even from the radio, tv or internet.

Once you pick up thoughts–especially thoughts that are repeated regularly, like ‘money doesn’t grow on trees,’ or ‘you’ll never get it right,’ they become ingrained and you start thinking they are your own thoughts. NOT!

NUMB?
If you feel numb, and maybe even no particular thoughts emerge for you, try this:

Even though:
I feel so numb
I’m still OK
and I choose to be able to identify my limiting thoughts and beliefs right now, or soon.

Even though:
I have kept myself numb in order to stay safe
I’m going to try this tapping thing
in order to heal the limiting beliefs in my system
so I can create a better life.

Even though:
this numbness feels like a blanket over my head (see how the actually energy is revealing itself now?),
and I feel like I’m being crushed by it
I’m afraid of it
because I know it will totally crush me
I still am going to love and accept myself fully anyway.

Now tap on each point on the face and torso, using the same phrases you used above to express yourself.

Keep tapping until your ratings get to at least a 3. If you feel as if the rest will melt away by itself, you can go on to the next one. If not, go to zero. Tap and then re-rate your feelings.

I CHOOSE!
Now choose to feel fabulous and empowered (tap on the yeah-buts and I-can’ts, and keep choosing to feel and be fabulous and empowered. Describe that in your own terms, of course!).

Tap in your new choices:
**  I choose to do my business as systematically and professionally as Ms X does.
**  I choose to find someone who will build me a site as great as hers–or greater!
**  I choose to create a system that will help people as powerfully as hers. Or,
**  I choose to help people in my own way just as powerfully and deeply, if not more so.
**  I choose to do my life the way that feels right to me, in my own way and style.
**  I forgive myself for being so hard on me, and choose to add more humor and fun to my life from now on

Obviously, make your own choices in your own words–you may not even have a website!

RE-RATE YOUR FEELINGS & THOUGHTS
Look at the list of feelings and thoughts you had in the beginning. Re-rate them.

Congratulations–you just took a big pile of energy that was holding you back and turned it into lovely creative juice with which you can nurture and empower yourself!

RE-COMPARE
Now look back at that person with whom you were comparing yourself. Recognize that she is simply on another level than you are, and you are absolutely OK the way you are right now. You were just noticing things about her that you could amp up on your own site, in yourself or your business to–or way beyond where they are now!

NOW GET A MOVE ON!
Choose a couple of items from the list of the things you admired about her. Look at your own life and doings: are you already doing the same type of thing in your own way? If not, would you even want to now that you have a more sober way to look at them?

If so, what are they? Write them out clearly, make a mind map, or do what it takes in your own way to add them to your plan.

What are a few very simple steps you can take to accomplish them?

Start right now. Decide and determine to take all that lovely energy you just cleaned up and made available for creativity–and DO those steps!

WHAT NEXT?
Next time you find yourself comparing, notice your energy. Do you need to tap? Do it! No? Then use your comparing to see what you want to do or not do, and go on from there, knowing that you are a worthy, unique, irreplaceable being whose life and doings in the world are necessary and precious to the rest of us.
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© Angela Treat Lyon 2009 • I invite you to feel free to use this article as long as you use it in its entirety, including my © and contact information. Lyon at IDareYouRADIO.com

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Food aversion can seriously hinder some parts of our lives. I myself have a strong aversion to fish, but especially to its smell. When people at the same table or the same room as I are eating fish or see food it really bothers me, and sometimes brings up a feeling of aggression, which makes me feel bad.

 

I have a friend who keeps inviting me for lunch and very often she serves fish agrrr…although she knows I am not eating it. I bumped into this article and taught it might be worth trying to get rid of the fish aversion; it is a healthy food and I live in a Mediterranean country where not eating fish feels like a character flow. So I will give it a try and then let you know what happened. In the mean time here is an article that might inspire you to do the same as it inspired me.

 

How I Cleared a Food Aversion in 5 Minutes

On a recent hot summer morning, my husband, Steve, offered me some ripe, ice-cold, cantaloupe. He said, “Too bad you don’t like cantaloupe. It doesn’t get any better than this one.” I remembered hearing about people clearing a food issue with EFT, so I thought I might as well try it. I had detested eating cantaloupe for as long as I could remember. My sister didn’t like it either, which made me think that “something” happened while we were eating cantaloupe when we were girls.

The set-up phrases I used(while tapping on my karate chop point) were, Even though:

* I don’t like the taste of cantaloupe, and I don’t know why, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

* I don’t ever remember liking the taste of cantaloupe… my sister and I don’t like the taste of cantaloupe… something may of happened while we were eating cantaloupe, and I don’t remember what it was….

Then I did a round of tapping. For the reminder phrases I used:

* don’t like cantaloupe

* doesn’t taste good

* don’t like the taste

* don’t ever remember liking the taste.

Then I took a taste of cantaloupe. It was cold, somewhat crisp, and felt good in my mouth. It didn’t taste quite as bad as I thought it would, but I couldn’t say that I liked it. So, I did some more set-up phrases while tapping on my karate chop point. Even though:

* cantaloupe has always tasted yucky to me…

* something happened to make it so I don’t like the taste of cantaloupe, and I don’t

remember what it was…

* there is something about the aftertaste of cantaloupe I don’t like….

I did a round of tapping using the following reminder phrases:

* yucky taste

* yucky cantaloupe aftertaste

For the testing, I took a big bite of cantaloupe. “Yum, not bad,” as I continued eating a giant piece of a fresh, juicy, cantaloupe.

In about five minutes, I cleared a food aversion that I have had for over 50 years. Even though I had a sense that something may have happened in my past while I was eating cantaloupe, and even though I couldn’t remember exactly what it was, I was still able to clear my resistance to the taste. Now, I can finally enjoy a food that I had eliminated from my diet when I was a child.

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Silvia Hartmann is one of the EFT practitioners I respect very much. The books she writes are thorough, written with dedication and a great deal of knowledge. I came across her article about EFT and money block and I definitely think this process is worth doing several times. I haven’t yet met a person without money issues; even the rich ones have them. So read on and tap along!

As I have no experience with clients complaining of having too much money and suffering from sleepless nights because they simply don’t know how to spend it all, I think we’ll just go right ahead and look at some strategies on how to overcome money problems with EFT.

As “money” is such a deeply convoluted subject with aspects arising all over the place, a nice idea is to go back to basics. Especially if there are serious money problems, it can be most helpful to start by treating money like you would treat a spider phobia.

Find (or borrow) a banknote of a reasonably large denomination and simply place it in front of you on a desk or table. What springs to mind? What emotions do you feel when you look at it? When I’ve tested this procedure with people, it was most interesting to note what a variety of negative responses occurred. From, “I don’t believe this is mine”, via “I don’t deserve to have this”, to “There’s no point getting attatched to it, someone will just come and take it away anyhow” - a whole range of depressing, unhappy, and generally truly negative responses were present when you simply confronted an every day adult with a bank note.

This became even more pronounced when I picked up the note, held it out to the person and said loudly, “Here you go, (name), this is for you.” Not a single one of my “success coaching” clients could take the money without feeling seriously bad for a whole range of complicated reasons!

The format was just to keep tapping and testing each time by bringing out the bank note again until there was no negative response left and the person took the note happily, readily, and even with a smile in some cases.

If you are intending to do some “money work” by yourself or with friends, use the following as “triggers” (like the spider would be to the spider phobic) to find the aspects of the problem:

…single bank notes of various denominations…a pile of banknotes (boy that is a set of interesting aspects!)…a single large coin (this brings out childhood memories)…a pile of coins (this brings out childhood memories relating to savings)

Then, we can go on to clear other money related aspects by using some of the following in the same, straightforward way (which is always: trigger, test, tap, trigger, test):

…bank statements (serial spending and saving habits :-)…payslips/wage packets (apart from career issues, this brings out family/father issues from childhood)…credit cards (imagine me laughing here - talk about negative emotions coming to the fore!)…credit card statements (which have different aspects to the actual plastic card)…building society books, share certificates, or any other paper representation of money that features large in the individual person’s life…bills and invoices (and especially the red variety

Financial limits are wonderfully explored by using a friend and both their chequebook and yours. Write each other cheques for ever increasing sums of money and hand them to each other. This can bring out not only the pain of accepting large sums of money, but conversely also the pain of letting go! “Money constipation” is just as damaging to a healthy financial system as is “money diarrhea” (where you don’t earn but keep on spending regardless), “money anorexia” (where you neither earn nor spend) or “money bulimia” (where you earn but spend immediately so there’s no noticeable gain at the end of the day).

Lastly (and this is a personal favourite of mine) we have what I call “potential money” such as lottery tickets, gambling slips and scratch cards. Entwined in these you will find issues around luck, deservability, and, most interesting of all, often a belief that “this is the ONLY HOPE I could possibly have to ever become really rich”.*

*A note: Tapping away negative feelings on lottery tickets does not turn someone into a compulsive gambler. On the contrary. It can actually help with compulsive gambling to dis-engage emotion from the trigger the lottery tickets (as well as game shows, horse races and so on) represent.

You might think as you read this, “That’s a lot of tapping!”, but don’t fret. It only seems that way because I have made a list of relevant “money triggers” that in reality covered a whole lot of real people and all their combined problems.

Generally, only some of the triggers reveal the driving forces to a person’s overall money problems, and when they have been dealt with, it’s not necessary to do all the other ones. I have mentioned them all so that you could work your way through them over a period of, say, a week. I promise you, it would truly change your relationship with “money” for the better.

Silvia Hartmann-Kent

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 Therapist Loretta Sparks offers below one method of using EFT to clear psychological reversal which in the field of meridian therapies means that the energy flow related to a particular subject has become reversed; the client is stuck and the intensity, the SUDs is not moving.

In other words no matter how hard one works at changing a behavior, and no matter how much will power one has in other areas, in the particular issue area, nothing seems to work.

I like to start with this protocol to check the ecology around solving the problem before diving into the problem itself.

This exercise assumes the reader knows the EFT process. Here’s the process:

Find, and then rub the Sore Spot on the left side of your chest saying out loud:

• “Even with all my problems and limitations, I deeply and completely accept myself.”

Now place your attention on the problem to be cleared:

a. Tap directly under nose (above upper lip) and say out loud 3 times emphasizing the CAPITALIZED words:

• “Even if I NEVER GET OVER THIS PROBLEM, I accept myself deeply and completely.”

b. Tap the karate chop area on the edge of either hand continuously while saying out loud each of the following Set Up sentences 2 times, emphasizing the CAPITALIZED words:

• “Even if I am NOT READY to eliminate this problem with ________, I deeply and completely accept myself”

• “Even if I DON’T DESERVE to get over this problem with ________, I deeply and completely accept myself”

• “Even if I feel it’s NOT SAFE to get over this problem with _______, I deeply and completely accept myself”

• “Even if I am SCARED to try to deal with this problem with_______, I deeply and completely accept myself”

• “Even if I will FEEL DEPRIVED if I get over this problem with _______, I deeply and completely accept myself”

• “Even if I will NOT DO what is necessary to get over this problem with _______, I deeply and completely accept myself”

“Even if I will LOSE MY IDENTITY if I get over this problem with _______, I deeply and completely accept myself”

Now perform EFT for the problem. Stop, breathe and see what you notice. Sometimes just doing this multi-faceted set-up work will shift the issue dramatically.

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