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Self esteem is a commodity that would be a very well sought after item if it could be purchased in shops; most of us need some boost and many more need a huge quantity of it to be able to go through the every day life. Since this is not possible, except from the shopaholic version which does more harm then good, here are as a mere reminder some tips to boost our deficient self esteem.

Things You Can Do Now to Raise Your Self Esteem:

1. Pay attention to your own needs and wants.
2. Take very good care of yourself.
3. Eat healthy foods and avoid junk foods.
4. Exercise. Arrange a time every day or as often as possible when you can get some exercise.
5. Do personal hygiene tasks that make you feel better about yourself.
6. Take time to do things you enjoy everyday.
7. Get something done that you have been putting off.
8. Do things that make use of your own special talents and abilities.
9. Dress in clothes that make you feel good about yourself.
10. Give yourself rewards.
11. Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself-people who treat you well. Avoid people who treat you badly.
12. Make your living space a place that honors the person you are. Display items that you find attractive or that remind you of your achievements or of special times or people in your life.
13. Make your meals a special time. If you eat with others, encourage discussion of pleasant topics. Avoid discussing difficult issues at meals.
14. Take advantage of opportunities to learn something new or improve your skills.
15. Begin doing those things that you know will make you feel better about yourself - like eating more healthily, deciding to exercise daily, or reducing clutter.
16. Do something nice for another person. Smile at someone who looks sad. Say a few kind words to the check-out cashier. Help your spouse with an unpleasant chore. Take a meal to a friend who is sick. Send a card to an acquaintance. Volunteer for a worthy organization.
17. Make it a point to treat yourself well every day. Before you go to bed each night, write about how you treated yourself well during the day.

From the United States Department of Health and Human Services, For the full text: http://mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/publications/allpubs/sma-3715/things.asp

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Food aversion can seriously hinder some parts of our lives. I myself have a strong aversion to fish, but especially to its smell. When people at the same table or the same room as I are eating fish or see food it really bothers me, and sometimes brings up a feeling of aggression, which makes me feel bad.

I have a friend who keeps inviting me for lunch and very often she serves fish agrrr…although she knows I am not eating it. I bumped into this article and taught it might be worth trying to get rid of the fish aversion; it is a healthy food and I live in a Mediterranean country where not eating fish feels like a character flow. So I will give it a try and then let you know what happened. In the mean time here is an article that might inspire you to do the same as it inspired me.

How I Cleared a Food Aversion in 5 Minutes

On a recent hot summer morning, my husband, Steve, offered me some ripe, ice-cold, cantaloupe. He said, “Too bad you don’t like cantaloupe. It doesn’t get any better than this one.” I remembered hearing about people clearing a food issue with EFT, so I thought I might as well try it. I had detested eating cantaloupe for as long as I could remember. My sister didn’t like it either, which made me think that “something” happened while we were eating cantaloupe when we were girls.

The set-up phrases I used(while tapping on my karate chop point) were, Even though:

* I don’t like the taste of cantaloupe, and I don’t know why, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

* I don’t ever remember liking the taste of cantaloupe… my sister and I don’t like the taste of cantaloupe… something may of happened while we were eating cantaloupe, and I don’t remember what it was….

Then I did a round of tapping. For the reminder phrases I used:

* don’t like cantaloupe

* doesn’t taste good

* don’t like the taste

* don’t ever remember liking the taste.

Then I took a taste of cantaloupe. It was cold, somewhat crisp, and felt good in my mouth. It didn’t taste quite as bad as I thought it would, but I couldn’t say that I liked it. So, I did some more set-up phrases while tapping on my karate chop point. Even though:

* cantaloupe has always tasted yucky to me…

* something happened to make it so I don’t like the taste of cantaloupe, and I don’t

remember what it was…

* there is something about the aftertaste of cantaloupe I don’t like….

I did a round of tapping using the following reminder phrases:

* yucky taste

* yucky cantaloupe aftertaste

For the testing, I took a big bite of cantaloupe. “Yum, not bad,” as I continued eating a giant piece of a fresh, juicy, cantaloupe.

In about five minutes, I cleared a food aversion that I have had for over 50 years. Even though I had a sense that something may have happened in my past while I was eating cantaloupe, and even though I couldn’t remember exactly what it was, I was still able to clear my resistance to the taste. Now, I can finally enjoy a food that I had eliminated from my diet when I was a child.

by SkyWatcher SkyWatcher’s blog

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Eckhart Tolle is in, his new book A New Earth is hot, he is discussing it with Oprah in live webcasts you can download or view online.

Eckhart Tolle is known as the father of being in the now;  not a new concept but it is the one he is most known for.

Here is a breathing exercise brought to us by Micheal Neil one of my favorite coaches (check out his weekly shows on Hay House Radio) to help us stay in the now. It works beautifully, I tried.

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The NOW Exercise
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1. Count 10 breaths from 1 up to 10. A simple way to do this is to silently say the word ‘in’ for each in-breath and ‘out’ for
each out-breath. Follow up each word with the number, for
example ‘in (1), out (1); in (2), out (2)’, etc.

2. If you lose count before you get to 10 (and yes, pretty much everyone does the first few times they do this), simply begin again at 1.

3. When you get to 10, smile down into your heart and enjoy the precious present.

Have fun, learn heaps, and live well.

With love
michael

http://www.geniuscatalyst.com/.

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In the second part of the EFT statement: “I deeply and completely love and accept myself” we express acceptance and love to ourselves. For some people this kind of affirmation sounds bizarre while other ones start crying while pronouncing it.

In our society self acceptance and self love are synonyms of egotism and of self-absorption and are therefore definitely not desirable states of being. We have been thought to love and accept others and not to bother with ourselves (with our emotions, whishes, needs included).

By ignoring them we embark in a life of misery and perpetual inner discontentment; and at some point we desperately start looking for tools to fix and improve ourselves. 

See what Robert Holden says about it in his article

 Stop Improving Your Life — And Start Living!

Soon after my book Happiness NOW! was published, a journalist interviewed me on the subject of self-improvement. She found what I said was surprising and refreshing. Afterwards she asked me to write 100 words on what she called my “unique take” on self-improvement. Here is what I wrote:

After living sixteen years, 5,844 days, on the spiritual path;
After sitting for 5,000 hours in earnest meditation;
After reading 1,000 brilliant books on success, happiness and love;

Aer listening to 500 self-healing tapes;
After attending 250 self-improvement workshops;
After benefiting from 200 therapy sessions;
After praying on my knees more than 100 times;
After going on twenty-five retreats;
After enduring ten fasts;
After suffering five colonic irrigations;
And after trying to forgive Mom and Dad more than once;
I finally got the key to happiness: RELAX!

Some people are so busy striving for self-improvement that they have no time for self-acceptance. They also have no time for laughter, happiness or even relationships. Many times I have watched people use self-improvement as a covert form of self-attack — heavily laced with self-criticism, self-loathing and a denial of wholeness. Self-improvement often starts with a perception of lack (i.e., “I am not good enough”, “I am not okay yet”, etc.). Unless this perception of lack is changed, you always end up where you started from, in lack! No amount of self-improvement is enough. There is no rest. I tell people who attend my seminars that my work is not about self-improvement; it’s about self-acceptance.

I honestly believe everyone is holy, everyone is blessed, and everyone is an angel. Self-acceptance feeds the inner garden of the soul. It clears away the debris of doubt, criticism, fear, judgment and ego.

With self-acceptance you live and grow spontaneously, naturally, abundantly. Imagine if you were to practice unconditional self-acceptance! How would your life be? What’s your fear? For most people the fear is “all hell will be let loose“, i.e., without self-improvement “I’m not okay”, “I’ll slip”, “I’ll turn bad”. Other common fears are that self-acceptance leads to complacency, arrogance, egotism, narcissism, “losing my drive”, falling behind and not growing any more.  These fears are, in truth, smokescreens for a much bigger fear, which is, with enough self-acceptance you will experience so much unconditional love it will blow your ego away. Also, with enough self-acceptance you will experience uncontrollably high levels of creativity, orgasmic abundance and boundless bliss. Check it out! Self-acceptance is your number one goal in life. Why? Because for as long as you believe there is something unacceptable about you, you will push away love, you will sabotage success, you will unconsciously conspire against joy, you will struggle, and you will never really find out who you are or what you are really capable of. 

With self-acceptance, you fear you will lose something, but really you lose nothing and gain everything. For instance, with self-acceptance, you lose your fear of lack, and gain wholeness; you lose judgment and guilt, and gain innocence; you lose your ego, and regain great creativity. With self-acceptance, you lose ground, and start to fly!

Self-acceptance transforms your perception of yourself.

 
The more you commit to self-acceptance, the more you will begin to see that there is nothing about the real you that is wrong, bad, not okay or not enough. Self-acceptance inspires all sorts of personal alchemy and self-realization. It is truly the most powerful act of healing, prosperity and love on the planet.   Today, be willing to practice unconditional self-acceptance. Affirm “I am okay,” even if you can’t see it yet.

 Cease striving. Trust in your goodness. Relax into your wholeness. Above all, be kind to yourself. You do not have to do anything good, right or great to justify this kindness. Treat yourself the best you can so as to bring out the best in yourself. Shift happens with self-acceptance! Be kind to yourself. 

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Often times we forget to use our natural abilities to stimulate our
Healing System. Here are few simple techniques for improving personal well-being and health through the use of breathing.

If traffic problems cause you to be stressed then:

1. Breathe in calm

2. Breathe out tension

Troubled by information overload:

1. Breathe in order

2. Breathe out chaos

Not feeling well?

1. Breathe in healing

2. Breathe out disease

from the Hypnosis and Holistic Living Email Journal No 130 Mar 2008

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