Ego Management by Debbie Ford

Posted by Marina Grgic on 10 Jun 2009 | Tagged as: I recommend

Sometimes I feel like I’m in the ego management business — in the midst of finishing a new book, preparing to launch The Shadow Effect, building two new websites, creating an amazing web space for my coaches, leading workshops and trainings, making brochures, Twittering and updating my Facebook status, mothering, and more. It can be overwhelming and bring up the most earthly behaviors — mine and others. Of course, I’m in denial when they’re mine and appalled when they’re somebody else’s. That’s the way of the ego, the way of the shadow and its mighty defense called projection.

 

I woke up this morning asking, “What’s the answer?” How do you get through life each day when you’re in overwhelm, when there is more on your plate than you can handle, or when life is just not behaving as it should? I needed some solace (peace) so I went digging around in my next book The 21-Day Consciousness Cleanse to find it. I thought I’d attend one of my own lectures. And right there on page 12, I got relief. Even though the book is not out until September, I wanted to share what shifted me with you.

 

It is your soul’s journey to bring into balance all of what you are — the coexistence of opposites, the divine integration of the sum of all the parts. It is the soul’s journey to enroll the ego in the quest for the ultimate victory — the evolution of your own individual consciousness. But the journey must begin by choosing between two forces: one has the power to lead you to new heights; the other can keep you pinned down to a past that is filled with limitation and dread.

 

Don’t be fooled. You’re living either an ego-driven life or one that is soul centered. The soul discerns with a laser like sharpness. The ego judges and rejects with disdain and aggressiveness. The soul takes responsibility.

 

The ego blames and transfers responsibility. The soul moves through life with grace. The ego moves through life with sloppiness, chaos, and drama. The soul feels good about who it is and what it wants and needs to sustain itself, to grow and evolve. The ego never has enough; it can never leave well enough alone or see beyond the current circumstances. It is entitled, confused and feels stuck.

 

The ego is tirelessly swimming against the current, while the soul sits back and floats in the direction that life is moving in. You’re either being guided by your soul or driven by your ego. At any time, you have access to either of these lifestyles, and to all the experiences and emotions they bring with them.

 

After reading these short paragraphs, I realized that all there was for me to do in the midst of the turmoil was to choose the journey of my sweet soul — to tune in, to listen even more deeply and to stay committed to a higher vibration — the vibration of love, peace and success…my soul’s success.

 

So of course I’ll ask you like I asked myself, “What can you do this week to make this human experience more loving, more honest and more soulful?” I hope you remember that, in the midst of an ego attack, you too can choose a higher vibration. It is the only true path to your soul’s success.

 

from Debbie Ford’s Shadow blog

Dialogue vs. debate

Posted by Marina Grgic on 25 Apr 2009 | Tagged as: Uncategorized

Dialogue vs. debate

  • Dialogue is collaborative: two or more sides work together toward common understanding.
    • Debate is oppositional: two sides oppose each other and attempt to prove each other wrong.
  • In dialogue, finding common ground is the goal.
    • In debate, winning is the goal.
  • In dialogue, one listens to the other side(s) in order to understand, find meaning and find agreement.
    • In debate, one listens to the other side in order to find flaws and to counter its arguments.
  • Dialogue enlarges and possibly changes a participants point of view.
    • Debate affirms a participant’s own point of view.
  • Dialogue reveals assumptions for re-evaluation.
    • Debate defends assumptions as truth.
  • Dialogue causes introspection on ones own position.
    • Debate causes critique of the other position.
  • Dialogue opens the possibility of reaching a better solution than any of the original solutions.
    • Debate defends one’s own positions as the best solution and excludes other solutions.
  • Dialogue creates an open-minded attitude: an openness to being wrong and an openness to change.
    • Debate creates a close-minded attitude, a determination to be right.
  • In dialogue, one submits ones best thinking, knowing that other people’s reflections will help improve it rather than destroy it.
    • In debate, one submits one’s best thinking and defends it against challenge to show that it is right.
  • Dialogue calls for temporarily suspending one’s beliefs.
    • Debate calls for investing wholeheartedly in one’s beliefs.
  • In dialogue, one searches for basic agreements.
    • In debate, one searches for glaring differences.
  • In dialogue one searches for strengths in the other positions.
    • In debate one searches for flaws and weaknesses in the other position.
  • Dialogue involves a real concern for the other person and seeks to not alienate or offend.
    • Debate involves a countering of the other position without focusing on feelings or relationship and often belittles or deprecates the other person.
  • Dialogue assumes that many people have pieces of the answer and that together they can put them into a workable solution.
    • Debate assumes that there is a right answer and that someone has it.
  • Dialogue remains open-ended.
    • Debate implies a conclusion.

Adapted from a paper prepared by Shelley Berman, which was based on discussions of the Dialogue Group of the Boston Chapter of Educators for Social Responsibility (ESR).


   

Healing with the Masters – The Daily Work Tele-Seminar Series

Posted by Marina Grgic on 20 Apr 2009 | Tagged as: Uncategorized


The Tele – seminar Series has started already and is about half way done, but there some amazing speakers are still

 

Jennifer McLean is the wonderful, funny, authentic and shift reading host of  this 12-week intensive that gives you exclusive inside-their-mind access to 24 of the world’s leading experts in new thought and wellness .

 

These well known speakers are revealing their most personal, private and above all most effective techniques that will help you achieve whatever you want in life (and release whatever you don’t want!).

 

Jennifer is an acclaimed healer, author and speaker who is applying her own process to this program, as evidenced by the list of “who’s who” in New Thought participating. Obviously, she knows how to make things happen and is very passionate about helping others achieve health and success.

 

There is still time to register for the free calls http://www.healingwiththemasters.com. You really don’t want to miss the rest of her speakers as Jennifer makes come the best out of them.

 

Enjoy, I do !

Michael Neill On Catching Birds and Flying Free

Posted by Marina Grgic on 27 Jan 2009 | Tagged as: Cool stuff to improve your life

To save  or not to save the falling baby bird? This is a beautiful video created by Michael Neill’s Genius Catalyst team based on one of his most popular tips originally written in 2003. Enjoy!

Could not embed the video unfortunately, but here is the link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_RPrmI-08kc

Children Learn What They Live

Posted by Marina Grgic on 19 Jan 2009 | Tagged as: Cool stuff to improve your life

Children Learn What They Live

If a child lives with criticism, she learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule, she learns to be shy.
If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilt.
If a child lives with tolerance, she learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise, she learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice.
If a child lives with security, she learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he or she learns to find love in the world.

by Dorothy Law Knolte


“Who I Am Makes A Difference” project.

Posted by Marina Grgic on 09 Dec 2008 | Tagged as: Cool stuff to improve your life

Mary Robinson Reynolds creates uplifting videos; I just watched the one about the “Who I Am Makes A Difference” project. It reminded me of the “Send it Forward” movie; by acknowledging one person we have an impact on all the others who cross their path. It really is vital to tell the people in our lives how important they truly are or have been to us. Click here to watch the video.

Who You Were To Me Made A Difference

Not to be just a mere “reporter” of an inspiring project, I am chalanging all of us to send at leas 2 mails of appreciation to someone, from now until Xmas, to let them know how they have touched this little life of mine. Instead of blue ribbons  we could send emails requiring some soul searching and expressing gratitude, which is not by default the easiest thing to do.

Is it so difficult sometimes to express gratitude, love and acknowledgments because it puts us in a vulnerable place where we might fear rejection? Or might it be that we don’t know how to deal with the other person’s inability to cope with kind and heartfelt words.? Is there some other reason we don’t do it more often?

Discovery Chanel - I love the world

Posted by Marina Grgic on 06 Dec 2008 | Tagged as: Cool stuff to improve your life

Watch this amazing video, it will open your heart. I would recommend even watching it several times a day.

Enjoy!

The Global Coherence Project of the Institute of HeartMath

Posted by Marina Grgic on 05 Dec 2008 | Tagged as: New in science

 Know that compassion for others is never wasted.

It just has its own timing and higher discernment in how it plays out.

Doc Childre

The Institute of HeartMathTM in partnership with internationally renowned astrophysicist and nuclear scientist Elizabeth Rauscher is developing a global monitoring system to measure the “brain waves and heart rhythm” of Earth in a real-time format.

It will explore the question of whether or not Earth’s magnetic field is influenced by collective human emotion from heart-based intention, or in response to major events, and whether or not collective emotion in response to major events is measurable in this field.Research has shown that 0.1 Hz is the frequency at which spirit, heart, mind, emotions and body are in resonant alignment with the planet. The term for this alignment is coherence. The greater our coherence, the greater our energetic connection with people, nature and ourselves. More

De-Stress Kit for the Changing Times

The Global Coherence Initiative just issued a De-Stress Kit for the Changing Times, which provides a few simple, yet effective practices for easing through the stress of these difficult times. Click here to view or obtain a free download of the booklet.

The Ultimate Self improvemnt Giveawy is still on

Posted by Marina Grgic on 27 Nov 2008 | Tagged as: Cool stuff to improve your life


This is a promotion that helps those in the self improvement industry to introduce products to new audiences and helps all of us to experience new self improvement techniques.The Ultimate Self improvement Giveaway

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What Is This Thing Called Healing

Posted by Marina Grgic on 23 Nov 2008 | Tagged as: Cool stuff to improve your life, I recommend, New in science

While I was listening yesterday to Jennifer McLean’s  Healing With The Masters  and her special guest Stephen Lewis on self-healing with the spiritual technology of the AIM Program I remembered that I came across his name about 2 years ago in Wayne Dyer’s  program”There’s a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem”. I did check it out on the Internet then, as I do almost always when something catches my attention, but “sans plus”. I probably was not ready for it.

Now that it is surfacing again in my world I feel quite excited. If our glitches and stuff  holding us down can be released by being exposed to programmed frequencies, how revolutionary and how great is that!!! Although I have obviously not tried it yet, but do intend to “get on the tray” as soon as possible, I feel in my gut that this could be the answer to humanity’s eternal search for healing and general well being.

There is so much false promise of a better, more abundant, happier life out there, available to us for a bunch of dollars; but most of it feels phony right from the start. This one feels like a real thing to me.

And although my European mind got irritated and confused by all the legal jargon in the application my intention to get on that tray is still strong.

N.B. The AIM is generously providing free participation in the program for children with Autism and Down Syndrome.

Stephen Lewis seems to be an authentic guy with a great sense of humor; two qualities I admire deeply.That’s why I am bringing here his article on healing.

As for Jennifer McLean I feel her as a great healer and a natural interviewer who knows how to listen to her guests, ask pertinent questions  without having the little white dog of her ego interfering. Her program  Healing With The Masters is going on for 2 more weeks, so don’t miss it.

What Is This Thing Called Healing
By Stephen Lewis

I keep avoiding every request to write an article on, “Just What Is This Thing Called Healing”. The problem is, it’s too big. Healing is inextricably bound to spirituality and both are inseparable from consciousness. The problem with consciousness is I don’t know where it begins and there is no end. Just as there’s always more and greater consciousness, ultimately, there is always more and greater healing until, at last, one heals the rift of his separation from the universe… and from his creator, and even then we must heal our collective separation from our universe. But, that’s for later, for now, we best begin at the ridiculous and work our way up toward the sublime.

First of all, if you have a shaving cut you will not need to go on disability, and should not quit your day job. The consciousness required to heal it is of the most primitive type, e.g. the limbic system. (Remember the classic neurology joke. The limbic system is in charge of the 4 F’s: Fight, Flight, Feeding, and Reproduction).

Leaving limbic man behind, let’s consider healing the “bigger stuff”, like cancer, brain damage… any of the heavyweights. Now, it’s absolutely true, that we heal with consciousness, but one does not have to be more conscious to heal an untreatable disease or to repair irreparable damage. In fact, one may be totally self-involved (which is diametrically opposed to conscious), and yet routinely perform apparent “miracles” of healing. Healing ones body is not necessarily a function of higher consciousness, but rather, a function of more focused consciousness.

In simple terms, if you focus on healing something, you will probably do it. This, at its most basic level is a function of the AIM Program of Energetic Balancing. You are compelled to focus on healing each and every imbalance (If it’s in our database), 24/7… Until you have healed them. Again, that is healing ones body. In fact, there is almost no choice offered you, because healing ones body is survival and survival as we know is a very basic instinct. It is part of a package you should have gotten at no extra cost when you came here.

All that being said (or written) we do have a choice to make and we are, ultimately, the result of the power of our intention.

Here is the way it works. There is nothing random or accidental in the universe… or in its inhabitants. If you are born with the propensity for cancer, heart disease, etc (hereditary, ancestral, past life, karmic… ?) and even if your propensity becomes an active reality at the level of you that is truly eternal your propensity your disease is not causal, but is a symptom of a deep, deeper, deepest problem. It is a symptom of a fundamental disease of your soul, and that disease of your soul can not be healed by you without increasing your consciousness.

I believe that to the extent that your (our) consciousness is not total and quantum, there is a fragmentation, a disharmony between your soul and the composite soul of the universe… which I call God.

I believe that as long as this disharmony exists we will develop “symptoms” which we call diseases. We may heal these “symptoms” such as cancer, heart disease, MS, but as we heal each one new “symptoms” will appear, and so on and so on, until each of us perceives or understands that these are symptoms and that the real disease is the choice we have made, and continue to make to separate ourselves from everything and everyone in the universe.

That separation is your only disease, and it is volitional. It is the cause, everything else is an effect.

So, this gives rise to an entirely new class of questions. Who separated each of us from our universe? What perpetuates that separation? How do we break this cycle? How can we regain our soul, rather than spend our lives waiting for the next symptom? Easy, or, at least, easily answered. As always, “the devil is in the details.”

Each of us has his very own personal and private abyss, and it is just that… a “seemingly” bottomless pit that we can never fill. It’s a scary place, the abyss, and so, considerate beings that we are, we isolate it. First we try to hide it and, if that doesn’t work, we protect others from it. We build walls, put up fences, post signs, “DANGER KEEP OUT” and “NO TRESPASSING.”

I think the contradiction here is becoming apparent. Your abyss is your illusion. In fact, it’s only threatening to one person in the world, and that would be, uh, you.
I can fly in your abyss. I can soar and glide. I can play in your abyss. I can love be loved make love and love you in your abyss. Again, your abyss is an illusion. It’s my abyss that’s frightening. And so on and so on…

Your abyss is what separates you from your soul, and from the personal and collective souls of everyone else. Well, the good news is you can fill your abyss, just as you can heal your soul. The bad news is, you can not do it alone. You need the help of me and a few billion others who are ready, willing and able. All you need to provide is a little courage.The courage that is required is to face whatever it is you keep in your abyss, whatever it is you fear. Tear down your walls and fences. Remove your warning signs. Invite every curious creature in the universe to peek into your abyss and feed and pet the monster who lives there. Put a ribbon around its neck. Monsters don’t do well with ribbons. There are a lot of curious creatures out there, and you know what’s going to happen? It’ll get over crowded, they’re going to fill up that void and you’ll have nothing left to hide from and no place to hide in. You will have healed your soul from it’s “original disease”, and, obviously, once that’s gone you can’t have any new symptoms. I could go on and on but I think you understand what I mean. All I can close with is, hopefully, we shall all find the courage to join hands and join forces and join souls… in the oneness.

BINGO.

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